So you like someone, but you’re reluctant to let them know. Maybe you’re scared they might not feel the same way, or you’re scared of how they’ll respond.
But, what if they like you back? Chances are they also like you but are also scared like you.
The worst feeling is finding out when it’s already late that the person you’ve always liked also liked you just as much, but because you both are afraid to say how you feel, you lose each other.
So, what’s stopping you from expressing your feelings to that person? If you’re still unsure about telling that person how you feel about them, here are 10 reasons why you should do so.
10 Important Reasons Why You Should Tell Someone How You Feel About Them
We’ve already established that someone you’re afraid might reject you might also like you. However, that’s not where it ends.
Telling someone how you feel helps you move on and get closure. Also, it shows confidence in yourself and helps you have a normal relationship with them.
Moreover, it sets you free and it feels good to let it off your chest. Besides, life is too short and you don’t know how tomorrow will be.
So, below are the reasons why you should tell that person your feelings:
- They might feel the same way
- You feel free
- To get the answers you need
- It prevents unnecessary attachment
- To make it easier to move on
- It shows confidence in yourself
- To get closure
- You don’t know how tomorrow will be
- To be able to act normal with them
- It feels good
They Might Feel the Same Way
You might just be thinking that this person doesn’t feel the same way about you and so you decide not to tell them how you feel because you’re afraid of their rejection.
But, the funny thing is that they might be sharing the same thoughts as you.
Have you stopped to think about whether they like you, even if it’s just a bit? How about if they admire you and think you’re great to be with?
Have you asked yourself whether they’re just afraid like you? What about if they only need you to show some interest before they speak their mind?
The questions can go on and on. The thing is that you can never know unless you make a move and tell them your mind. And trust me, the feeling of uncertainty is worse than that of rejection.
At least with rejection, you know where you stand, but not knowing where you are in their life isn’t a good feeling at all. And it worsens when you find out much later that you both might have stood a chance.
So, go ahead and tell that person that you like them because they just might like you and be waiting for you. Remember you’ll never know unless you ask to know.
You Feel Free
How do you feel when a load is taken off you? Or how do you feel when a chain is loosened from you? You feel free right?
That’s how it feels when you tell someone about your feelings. You feel free.
Bottling up emotions is like taking a heavy stone and placing it in your chest. Just like anger, anxiety, hurt, and others, keeping romantic feelings to yourself is like caging yourself.
There’s the constant awareness of their presence, the constant need to get their attention, and the self-consciousness.
Also, there’s the constant battle about whether you should tell them or not, the constant jealousy when you see people around them, and several more.
Believe me, these are feelings you don’t want to experience. It’s not a good place you want to be.
So, when you feel hesitant to tell someone about how you feel, think about whether you’d prefer to be in the cage of your emotions.
Think about how better it’d feel when you know you’ve told them and that tomorrow you won’t have to worry about telling them.
And that’s what it means when people say, “Get it off your chest.” It means freedom.
To Get the Answers You Need
Everyone needs answers to questions, everyone needs clarification on unclear things. But, how’d you get that answer if you don’t ask the question?
How’d you get clarification if you don’t seek it?
Rather than battle in your mind about whether someone would reject you or not, or whether they have feelings for you or not, why not go ahead and ask them?
And the best way to ask them is to start by telling them how you feel about them. Believe me, getting that answer brings much relief you might not know you need.
Moreover, you can’t know what someone is thinking if they don’t voice their thoughts. So, you deserve an answer to all these questions you’re battling with. You deserve to know their feelings and thoughts about you.
Whether they like you back or not, knowing what they feel for you is more important.
So, brace up and get that answer you deserve.
It Prevents Unnecessary Attachment
Would you rather allow yourself to fall so deeply in love with someone that it becomes very difficult to move on, or would you end things as quickly as you can?
I’m sure you’d prefer the latter. If you knew that something was a lost cause from the beginning, you wouldn’t bother with it, right?
If you express your feelings to someone when you begin to notice them, it’ll be easier to deal with the rejection and it’ll be easier to distance yourself from them so you can move on.
But, if you allow things to go far, maybe hoping they notice your feelings and you become great friends, you’ll end up making things difficult for both of you.
So, telling someone how you feel helps with preventing unnecessary attachment.
To Make It Easier to Move on
If you don’t know how someone feels about you, it’ll be difficult to move on from that person. And you won’t know if you don’t talk to them or them to you.
Also, if you like someone and you don’t say anything, you might find yourself thinking about them even when you get together with another person.
It’s just like being stagnant with no progress. It keeps you in a position where you’re unsure about what to do with them.
And being unsure is the worst kind of feeling- where you’re not able to move on and where you can’t have anything to do with them either because you don’t know how they feel.
So, the best way to move on easily from that person you like but it’s not meant to be is to express your feelings.
Moreover, when you express your feelings, you get to hear what they say and it helps you know what to do. If you’re to move on, then hearing them reject you, will help.
At least you know you no longer have a chance with them, so it’ll become easier to close your heart against them.
However, it won’t be very easy to shut them out, especially if you love them deeply, but at least knowing your stance with them is a step forward to moving on.
It Shows Confidence in Yourself
It shows confidence when you’re able to do something you’re unsure about the result. Not everyone dares to go on a journey that they’re not guaranteed 100% safety.
So, it shows you’re courageous when you express your feelings to someone you’re not sure shares the same feelings for you. Also, it shows you’re confident in yourself, it shows you have self-esteem because you believe you’re worth loving.
Being able to tell someone how you feel about them shows you’re not afraid to go for what you want.
Moreover, keeping quiet about your feelings invalidates it. It shows you don’t think that it’s important enough to be expressed, and that means you don’t think yourself important enough to be heard.
It takes enough self-confidence to tell someone how you feel, without fearing rejection.
Therefore, to boost that self-esteem, start by telling that person you like how you feel about them. What’s the worst that can happen?
To Get Closure
Sometimes we don’t always get what we want. That’s life. However, understanding why things happen helps in acceptance and moving on.
So, one of the beautiful things about telling someone how you feel about them is that it helps you get closure.
You don’t have to constantly worry about whether they like you or not, or whether they’d accept you or not. You don’t have to stay hurt because they’re not seeing your signals or showing any sign of wanting to be with you.
By telling them about your feelings, you’re putting everything out there. And if they eventually reject you, you’d understand why things are the way they are, or why they never got along with you the way you wanted.
You Don’t Know How Tomorrow Will Be
No one knows tomorrow, as they say, and life is too short. No one can tell if they’d make it tomorrow, no one can tell if their loved one will make it tomorrow.
Also, people around you won’t always remain around, even siblings go far to start their own families.
So, what if you don’t see that person you like anymore? It might not be death. What if they’re going far for work or schooling?
It’s better you say all that there’s to say so you don’t regret it in the future when they’re not there.
To Be Able to Act Normal with Them
If you’ve ever been in love with someone or have a crush on someone who doesn’t know about it, you’ll agree with me that most times you’re not completely comfortable with them.
You act strange sometimes, you do things that you normally won’t do, you get embarrassed easily, you’re not able to meet their eyes; you can’t help it.
And when they notice and ask why you’re like that, you won’t have a good answer for them.
Especially if they’re your friend and you have to watch them get close to other people while you try to hide your feelings, it can be very difficult to act normal with them.
But, if you tell them how you feel, they either reject you or accept you. If they accept you, all is good. But if they don’t, at least you’ll be more in control of how things go from there.
It Feels Good
Believe me, it feels really good when you get that weight off your chest, it feels very good to be able to move on, and it feels good to express your feelings and in turn, get a positive response.
In all, whatever is the outcome of telling someone how you feel, in the long run, you’ll be glad that you did.
Even if a rejection would hurt deeply, it doesn’t always last, what usually follows is closure, which is the best for you.
Final Words
Expressing your feelings to someone does a lot for your emotional well-being.
If the fear of rejection is what has been holding you back, I’m sure that after reading this article, you must’ve understood that rejection is not the worst that can happen to you.
So, brace up and get that rejection so you can move on. But, who knows? They might just like you too.
