There is a posture to take when you desire to please someone, like your crush. Most likely, somewhere at the top of your list are gifts, money, or taking them on a date, but there is more to these things.
You may lose your crush forever if you do not cross your i’s properly. This relates to making your crush comfortable and in their element as you try to please them and unveil your intent towards them.
In this article, you will learn about 20 tips you can use to make your crush get butterflies. They are not necessarily general principles, but, from what you know about your crush, you can use one or more of the following tips to fully transform your crush into loving you:
- Give them surprise treats.
- Show up for them when they are in a tight corner.
- Encourage them to make new strides.
- Dress smart; if possible, let them see you in your outfit that they consider their favorite style.
- Be confident and energetic.
- Respect them in private and before others.
- Have physical contact like hugs, taps, pecks, etc. when you meet your crush (if they permit).
- Always make your crush laugh. To add to that, make them happy.
- Support them to accomplish their dreams.
- Spend time alone together.
- Take them out to see a movie, shop, or go on a date.
- Listen to them with apt attention, and always let them know that you understand them.
- Talk about memorable moments you have had together.
- Give them mind-boggling compliments.
- Ask your crush general questions, especially what they like.
- Seek to know what they think about strategic issues.
- Allow your crush to feel comfortable and express themselves around you.
- Make eye contact intentionally, and smile whenever they look at you.
- Send them cute videos, memes, love songs, love emojis, and tattoos.
- Wholeheartedly participate in what they love.
1. Give Them Surprise Treats
Surprising your crush with treats is one sure tip to make them have butterflies. You must not necessarily wait until it’s their birthday, as they have many other gifts or surprises in store from other people.
Your surprise treat to them may not be during any other special occasion as well, just a random present to spice them up.
Your surprise will be more potent when done publicly if your crush is not so introverted. If you think it’s too public or you don’t want to go viral on the net, you can surprise her in the midst of her friends.
Random gifts, love letters, flowers, chocolate, and so on are some gifts that you can try. A special date to eat her favorite meal in a restaurant isn’t out of it, and a tour to somewhere she has always wanted to go is another special treat.
2. Show Up For Them When They Are In A Tight Corner
In order to make your crush have butterflies in their belly, you mustn’t always wait for that “aha” moment.
Simply ensure that you are on alert to provide the help they need when they are in a tough situation. For instance, your crush can have butterflies in their belly when you provide them with clarity on a subject matter that they are not clear on.
Due to one reason or another, your crush may be in a situation where they need a pressing need met.
At this point, giving them gifts or getting tickets for an adventure will do them little or no good. Instead, you can pave a way to see that they are on the right track by assisting them to meet the need, either directly or indirectly.
3. Encourage Them to Make New Strides
To make your crush feel loved, look around them and provide the immediate assistance you can to them.
This is because you may not always have the resources to give them gifts, and even if you do, there are certain aspects of their lives that you may have little or no stake in, like when you encourage them to make new strides.
At school, the workplace, home, or in their career, they might be at a crossroads where things seem to be discouraging.
At this point, a gift can show them that you are concerned about their well-being, but you can also give them a reason to feel loved and have butterflies by reminding them of the potential they possess and how they can successfully make new strides.
4. Dress Smart; if Possible, let Them see you in Your Outfit That They Consider Their Favourite Style
Once your crush compliments your outfit, it should give you a clear indication that they are delighted when they see you appear that way.
You can ask them why they love what you are putting on so that you may not need to always wear those exact clothes but persist with the particular style that they like about you.
It could be your hair, shoes, or whatever, and if what they love about you is your smell, then you should get many more of that fragrance so they could be ravished continuously by your scent.
It’s a sure way to always be in their face, grab their attention, and make your crush have butterflies.
5. Be Confident and Energetic
Having a crush can sometimes be a temporary thing, but when your crush gets butterflies so often from you, it could translate into a state of commitment.
Your crush may not need a gift from you at this point; on the other hand, they might have gotten gifts from you, but what they really need is to be sure that you have good self-esteem.
They also need to be assured that you are well grounded to give them the sense of security that they desire.
Beyond giving your presents, they can sustain more butterflies when you speak confidently in public, and they will be proud of you when you do the norm in a special way.
6. Respect Them In Private And Before Others
The subject of respect may not always be pronounced when it comes to making your crush feel like flying, but your crush needs a sense of respect.
Simple things like listening to them attentively when they talk, opening the door of the car, restaurant, or house for them to step in first, keeping to time when you go on a date, giving them space when they need it, seeking to please them without going against your values, and so on and so forth count if you truly desire to make your crush get butterflies.
You shouldn’t only do this for a public show, but respect them privately as well.
7. Have Physical Contact Like Hugs, Taps, Pecks, etc. When You Meet Your Crush (If They Permit).
Since love languages vary from person to person, try to discover what your crush likes, and if they desire to hug you when you meet, then you should include it when you exchange pleasantries with them.
Pecks and taps are also included; nevertheless, the watchword is to know if they want it and seek their permission before doing it.
However, if they accept, it is a great way to make your crush get butterflies. It will build friendship and make them feel loved since that is the language that they understand the most.
8. Always Make Your Crush Laugh. To Add To That, Make Them Happy
Cracking jokes can make your crush laugh so hard, but you can add to their laughter and happiness so that anytime they think about what you have done for them, they are filled with joy.
Make efforts to ensure that you have happy memories together and that you are a chief contributor to the unforgettable experiences you share.
This tip will make your crush look forward to meeting with you all the time, and if they are genuinely happy, it will cause them to spend more time with you.
So, in order to make your crush get butterflies, make them laugh, and then make further efforts to make them happy.
9. Support Them to Accomplish Their Dreams
Do you know that helping your crush arrange their schedule in an orderly manner, assisting them to meet deadlines, and going out of your way to offer timely support to your crush when they need you the most is a powerful way to make your crush have butterflies?
These tips make you a solution provider to your crush and give them the stance that you are not just someone hanging around them for what they will get but to add value to their lives.
In addition, you can remind them of the things they had set out to do, as life can pose challenges in different ways to make them forget or reorder their priorities, but when you see to it that your crush moves towards their desires, they will get butterflies.
10. Spend Time Alone Together
If you realize that your crush enjoys quality time, you may not need to go out in search of gifts or something to present to them when it may not be possible to get it at that moment; simply create time to spend with them.
Put other modalities in place, such as having a befitting environment with pastries, food, or whatever they’d prefer. You may not need to get a gift, except if you need to, but make sure that you give them all the attention they require, put away your phone while talking to them, and just flow like a river without hindrance as you have heart-to-heart talks with them.
That precious moment can make your crush have butterflies.
11. Take Them Out To See A Movie, Shop, Or Go On A Date
You can have a crush anywhere at all. likely places like your workplace, school, church, neighborhood, and even in unlikely places, but that doesn’t mean that you must always go there to meet with them and that you will invite them to your house all the time.
You can make things more fascinating between you and your crush by taking them somewhere, most preferably a place different from the norm, if they want to.
Make your inquiry to know where they would love to go, their favorite restaurant, club, shop, park, or if they would love to see a movie and where.
If your intention is to take them on a surprise date, do well to ask their loved ones what their preference is in order to make your crush get butterflies.
12. Listen to Them With Apt Attention, And Always Let Them Know That You Understand Them
Listening to someone doesn’t mean their full attention is in place, and in every conversation, beyond listening, it is important to understand your crush and not always remain dogged on what you want for them, yourself, or the people around you.
More often than not, when you give your crush a clue that you understand them, you make them have butterflies.
This is because, although they may not be right on some occasions, it doesn’t cancel the fact that they should be understood, except if you want to give them a sense of dictatorship, which may drive the butterflies they had for you away.
13. Talk About Memorable Moments You Have Had Together
If you’ve been around your crush for a while, you must have had beautiful memories together, which include good and bad times.
The good times are always fun to share; normally they are accompanied by butterflies for you and your crush; nonetheless, you shouldn’t leave out the bad memories too; you can make a joke out of them as well.
Pick pieces of your emotional moments here and there, reminding your crush about how far you have come and how those memories have shaped you two and become a part of your experiences.
Don’t forget to make your crush have some butterflies by telling them that you want those memories to be on repeat in your lives.
14. Give Them Mind-boggling Compliments
Compliments come in different levels, but an honest and creative one will not fail to make your crush have butterflies.
You simply need to know where it hits them best and give it your best shot. Usually, moments like this will cause your crush to smile so hard, and it can pave a way for you into the inner chambers of their heart if only you play your cards well.
When using this tip, you need to go beyond the typical ‘you are beautiful’ and the likes that are so popular when complimenting someone’s looks.
Add more creativity to it; this will show how intelligent and smart you are, and trust me, I’m sure that could be what will make your crush have butterflies.
For instance, if you want to compliment your crush’s hairstyle, go into details about the curls on their hair, how the hair smells like your favorite fruit, the intricate manner in which it is neatly arranged, and how it shines.
15. Ask Your Crush General Questions, Especially What They Like
If you are careful, when you go on a date with your crush, you may take center stage, talking about your experiences, family, and ultimately yourself.
Even though it’s a great idea for your crush to know you, you should also create a space for them to talk to you. Get to know what they like and dislike, their priorities, and things that are non-negotiable for them.
Seeking to know what they like can come first, so you can position yourself to please them. But don’t trivialize the fact that you also need to know what they dislike so you won’t hurt them as you try to make them have butterflies.
16. Seek to Know What They Think About Strategic Issues
When your crush gets involved in strategic issues about life and even yourself, it gives them some level of confidence that they are important to you.
Strategic matters here may not always be issues in your life since you should keep personal things private since you are not in a more committed relationship with them.
However, there are some issues about the society where you live, a conflicting choice on your mind, and something as simple as the outfit to put on during your next outdoor meeting.
You can also talk to them to share tips on how they aced their interviews and ask them how you should dress, the things you need to learn, and so on.
This position of yours towards your crush will definitely make them have butterflies.
17. Allow Your Crush To Feel Comfortable And Express Themselves Around You
Permit your crush to wrap their hands around you, hold your hand, put on your jacket, and lean on your shoulder if they want to.
This may not be literal for you, but it can also mean that you should allow your crush to be themselves with and around you.
It doesn’t mean that you should be loose or allow them to act loosely with you. It only means that you should let your crush be themselves around you.
In fact, praise them more when they come out of their shell and feel more comfortable around you.
Don’t forget that you have a picture in mind and that you desire to make your crush have butterflies. Don’t be too harsh when your crush defaults; take things slowly.
18. Make eye Contact Intentionally, And Smile Whenever They Look At You
There’s something having eye contact does to your crush. Some people may say that it sounds childish, but it is one of the best ways to draw the attention of your crush to yourself.
Don’t hide your smiles as well; lavish them when you have the opportunity to, as your crush looks at you. This sign tells your crush that your eyes are on them, and you are so pleased and excited anytime you are close to them.
Some people may get irritated by this act; at this point, you should stop. But if they excitedly roll their eyes back at you, then you are making your crush have butterflies.
This may further draw them to you when they seek to know why you look at them the way you do.
19. Send Them Cute Videos, Memes, Love Songs, Love Emojis, And Tattoos
All these ‘love’ signals, symbols, and rhythms are clear indications that love is near. And so, when you send your crush a cute love video where a man is expressing his love to a lady in a love song, love emoji, or tattoo, personalize it by sharing your intention alongside them in order for them to get the message in context.
Also, your crush may not like tattoos or the kind of memes you send to them; in that case, you can switch to sending them something else that they love better, which will make them have butterflies.
It may not always be online, but you can send things that they would love to get offline as well.
20. Wholeheartedly Participate in What They Love
If you’ve got a crush who is a foodie, put in efforts to explore this tip to the fullest so that your crush can have unending butterflies.
Cook their favorite meal, garnish it with rich ingredients, and serve it to them in an irresistible way with music, scenting candles, and roses during dinner.
If you don’t know how to cook their favorite meal, go the extra mile by learning how to prepare it and practicing it with the whole of your heart.
Get to know their favorite sport, the player they love the most, and passionately learn things that they are interested in so you can be on the same page with them.
They will be so surprised and thrown into a state of butterflies when they have a clue that you went out of your way to learn something that they are interested in because of them.
Before You Go
The intensity of your efforts towards practicing these tips shows how much you value your crush and how much you know about them.
This means you can make sacrifices to get gifts for them, spend quality time with them, and do things sacrificially for them with the thought that they are valuable to you.
On the other hand, you may go out of your way for your crush, but it may not count at the end of the day if you do not understand them, what they like, and how they want what they like.
So, do your homework well, and I pray your crush is crushing on you too!
